Stepping Out On Faith In A Relationship Part Three: Growing

When two people find true love, they grow together. Growing happens in many ways such as, growing their love for one another, growing their faith and commitment, or growing as a person. Growing helps the heart, mind, body, and soul. So now that you have read about commitment and submission, let’s talk about growing as a couple. A lot of us know that things will change in future times. Sometimes change can be a good thing, sometimes change can be a bad thing. Whatever happens in life, just know that there will be times you may just have to adjust what’s better for yourself, and the relationship. Always learn to accept change. But when you accept change, accept for the better, and not always the worst. If it’s under your control, make it for the better.

Growing through the hard times.

For most people, the hardest things in life will bring people closer together. What we need to realize is once we submit, God will twist and turn situations to increase our love, faith, and character. That’s part of what Faith is. When we use Faith on ourselves, God will use us in His power.  We just never know what could happen in life. That’s why it is always a positive thing to be there for one another, and your family. Sometimes we are placed in circumstances on how to fix and overcome battles, or they will teach us something so that we may learn from them. Often times we don’t want to think or go that route, but it’s something we all must face in life.

Growing in a relationship also means not letting the relationship to die out. When we commit ourselves to one another, it’s always our job to stay interested, stay faithful, stay connected, and enjoy the great things in life. Understand that a relationship is a blessing. Just like growing in Faith, you have to grow within the relationship. The more you grow, the stronger the relationship.

Some common things to grow within your relationship

Grow in Faith: As couples, take the time to pray for all things, and pray for each other. Pray for the goodness that you have been provided with. Know that everything will be alright if you trust and believe.

Grow in interest: Do things that will interest each other. Help each other out by venturing out of your comfort zones to find better things that interest you both. It’s never a bad thing to increase your interest level. It’s very pleasing to the eye when you’re enjoying something that your partner loves to enjoy. Seeing your partner happy should make YOU happy.

Grow in Increase of Activity: Through future times, couples will not always have the chance to do the same hobbies as they once did. Especially when married spouses have children, their freedom will be limited. Find at least one day out of the week, and use this time to spend quality time with each other. Block out all distractions such as work, stress, and call a baby sitter to watch the children. Do things like going out to eat, see a movie, a play, play sports, and all sorts of activities. Do things together that will make you both happy and that will keep you involved. Enjoy spending the time alone. 

Grow in Intimacy: For some couples, a lost of intimacy can change moods into a whole different direction. Intimacy isn’t always about sex, but yet it is so powerful it’s one thing you don’t want to lose in the relationship. Use your actions, and words to make your love ones feel sophisticated. Compliment each other, speak with a loving heart, show affection, and praise each other from time to time.

Grow in Character: Treating the one you love, should be an example of how you treat others. Remember that you want to grow not just in the relationship, but as a better person. Greet them, praise each other, and love that person as if you loved your own family, your partner’s family, and treat them the way you treat others.

Grow beyond the extra mile: Sometimes, hardships will be faced in a relationship. All you can do is push through and fight your way to work things out. Understand this, A relationship is a 50-50 rule; give and take. What you give, will sometimes determine what you receive. Cherish and be there for one another even when times get hard. If you can’t seem to work it out, it’s never a bad thing to ask for help.

Grow when you’re apart: When two people are apart, don’t be so desperate, needy, or clingy. Respect your partner’s space and independence from time to time. When you’re apart, grow within yourself, relax, replenish your inner system and mind. Use this time to focus on your behaviors, and figure what’s best to put in.  Allow new things to come, and let the old things go.

Grow socially: Like I said, get involved with many activities, but grow your circle of friends. Grow by establishing friendships, meet other people, and become socially involved with others. Grow your friendships, and last but not least, respect your partner’s friendships and family.

Like I said, there are many things that will help grow your relationship. You want to make sure you increasing your values, goals, and vision(s). If you’re the person who is afraid to step out and accept change, ask yourself these common questions.

What ways can I improve upon myself?

What ways can I improve within the relationship?

What can I do to help grow the relationship with my partner’s satisfaction?

What ways can I improve on that can improve other things around me?

Write out as many questions, answers, goals, and work your way slowly to build new things. Part of growing starts small, and then it will increase to both partner’s expectations. Always put in 110% in the relationship. The more you grow, the stronger the relationship.