Sunday, September 15, 2013

Stepping Out On Faith In A Relationship Part Two: Submission


The power of submission can bring two people together and closer. To build a better relationship, you must know the act of submission. When people first submit to each other, they now have to submit themselves together before God. Think about how “Faith” is used. You trust yourself and have hope for many things. Now you have to apply “Faith” in each other. When two people learn that they are meant for each other, they have a wedding. But what most people tend to forget is that a wedding is much more than a ceremony filled with flowers, décor, and glamour. It’s actually a “Blessing”. Part of the ceremony is to bless the relationship so that you may live “’till death do us part”.  The reason why a lot of relationships and marriages lose “Faith” is because they forget to submit.

Submitting to each other: Knowing your role
First let’s talk about submitting to each other. Submitting to each other is similar to commitment.  Woman, allow your man to be the “Man” in the relationship. Men, allow your woman to be the “Woman” in the relationship. Now that the two of you know your roles, now it’s time to know each other’s roles. Realize the potential you both have. Men, just because you are the “Man” of the household (or relationship), doesn’t give you the complete authority of control and domination. Women, as strong as you are, you are not below anyone, but remember that you are right by your husband’s side.  Nobody has full control over anyone. In the relationship, Men, our job is to protect all we can within and out the household. We must always be there for our wife, children, and ensure that we are doing the right things. What exactly does it mean to do our job? Well for starters, think about when you wanted the woman in your life. The woman is what drives our motivation to become even more desired to her. We take care of her, treat her good, respect, and value her. Our job is to embrace her so that she knows she’s the one and only person treated as a queen. A woman must know and understand that she feels appreciated. We as men must step up to be the leaders. Ladies, as strong as you are, you have to be by your husband’s side. Realize another thing, although the male is the leader, you are also a leader as well. In order to submit, you both equally have to come agreement with another on many things. If you apply “Faith, and Trust into each other, equally your hearts will come together as one. One of the many reasons why relationships have problems is because two people can never come in terms of agreements.  When you think about committing to one another, you’re looking at embracing and trust. When you think about submission, you’re applying agreements on different terms and levels. You use agreements to one another of what’s best for you both, and not just ONE person in the relationship. Many situations and tests such as finances, hardships, family, careers will determine whether the two of you can come in terms of what’s best.  


Submitting to God
Submitting your relationship and marriage to God will allow the two of you to have a stronger bond with each other. Now that you have taken the time to submit to each other, now you have to submit to God. Remember when I said that a wedding is actually a blessing? Don’t take it for granted. Yes I respect those who “don’t believe” in God. But the question is, how can two people “make it” without “Faith” to keep them stable?  Let’s go back to what I said in part one. When two people commit, they must learn to respect each other in the relationship. The act of committing, is to commit to each other. The power of submission is to submit to Faith in God. You have now taken a huge step to allow blessings upon blessings entering in your relationship. There are times when relationships get hard, and there are also times where we get to a point and want to give up. God has placed the right person in your life. Sometimes it may not be who you want, and sometimes things may not turn out as great as you want to. But know that there is always a reason why that person is in your life. Either you are the impact, or they are the impact. There’s always a situation that’s going to balance things (Relationship Tests). The smallest, yet simplest thing a person can do in the relationship is to “pray”. Couples should always take the time to pray. When you pray, don’t just pray about the hard things that come, but pray to accept all challenges that come. Pray for each other, pray for a chance to grow. When you submit your relationship unto God, he will bless your relationships even more. Submission is giving back to the Lord for what He has done. When things get hard, He will take you through it. All you have to do is learn from the situation, and fight your way through it without giving up. Part of submission is allowing God into our everyday lives so that we may live to be “Fruitful”. When we live fruitful, we have seeds planted in us so that other people can see how to treat each other within the relationship, and one another outside the relationship. These things will teach us to grow with patience, kindness, love, and character. Submit yourselves and allow “Faith” to expand your relationship. Let’s say you’re with someone who doesn’t have faith or believe. What do you do? Pray!!! Through time, it’s not going to come quick. It will take time for your partner to see all of the great blessings. Eventually, your partner will see Christ in you, and through you. Have Faith and let the good things happen. Submit to each other (Agree to each other), Submit to God (Agree to Faith), and let the blessings come down. There are times when we will have to sacrifice through things, but realize that submission and sacrifices are great challenges to accept.

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