Look Beyond Your Faults & Failures: Striving to success with Faith

One thing that I realized this week as finals are gearing up and classes come to an end is........

There has been a majority of successful people who became CEO’s, Producers, Business personnel, Computer Scientists, anything and you name it. Some of those people either had it hard in life, or perhaps had dropped out of college. Regardless of what your Faith is, you may never see what the future has in store for you and of course even I don't see it, and quite frankly it's really not our job to know what's in store for our lives. Sure we can dream, work hard at a goal point we’re trying to make but what I’m trying to say is that we’re all not the same nor do we operate the same way. However, each one of us has our faults, failures, trials, and tribulations that affect us to keep us getting where we are going. We use that affect to make us believe the best will never happen. I can tell you this, don’t let that affect get to your head. You have your entire life to do what you love to do, and you sooner or later, the success will come. What I’m trying to get at with this is, there's always a plan and a way to be successful in life. It's interesting how God can carry you through all of those things and he's great enough to see your need and help you reach your strong points. Despite of what your past was like, grades, life, finances etc. don’t let it affect you too much by thinking you will never make it. Some people use that as a motivation to not be on that level, so they strive to walk hard that extra road (Especially those who didn’t graduate college or went). To the students who are finishing up school, don’t let a class or a bad grade make you become less of a person. Young single mothers, continue to do the best for your life and child. Despite of some people striving, don’t let the people who breeze by tear you down, it’s not a race.  As much as I am big on education, yes we need it in order to succeed, but some people don’t always get to have that opportunity. Just because one has a degree and the other one doesn’t, doesn’t make them any smarter than an average CEO. Sure you may have the well-rounded educational mindset, but know that we are to be equal, and to help others. I’m not saying dropping out or “don’t work” is the answer, I’m basically saying is that you CAN and WILL be successful. So whatever you strive to become, or do, declare yourself that you will make it to that point regardless if it takes a black eye or two. With or without a certain deed, your time will come. Just continue to work, keep striving, don’t give up on Faith, and remember you have more chapters to open up than just one. Your time is coming, you are successful, and you are no less than anyone else. God will bring you through, and your reward will come.

Best Wishes

@RonaldAtkinson9 

Finding The One Over The Holidays

Finding the one is no where near to what I call “cuffing season”. Yes it’s around the winter holidays, but I’m just trying to give you hope. Most single people will tend to not bother with dating because most couples go out for each other during the holidays. For example, you buy the gifts, you go out on dinner dates, Christmas parties, and other activities, and single people are aware of avoiding that. Here’s what you can do to step it up. Men, if you’re wanting to ask that girl on the date, go back and refer to my past blog Asking Women On A Date.

1.     Less competition in finding someone. Now, if you’re in college(or any other type of school/institution.), you already know that most people are usually taken within the first two months just to get the year going. That time of the year has the most competition. Now since it’s later, you have less competition with others. Go participate in places where you might meet singles. A party, a park, skating, any place where most singles have the most fun. If you’re the type of person who does online dating, always update your information. Update your photo, make status updates, include what type of winter activities you’re interested in so that other singles will see the same.

2.     The Bond & Holiday Party Date: If you’re like me who loves going to the holiday parties(mature holiday parties), quickly find someone just by choosing. If you have a list of singles you’re interested in, rate them in order of preference, and get one to go with you as a holiday party date. It’s not like you’re using them, but for now, you’re only creating a bond. You never know where it may lead. Look for someone who maybe is outgoing, entertaining, someone who is comfortable with having conversations with new people. I wouldn’t recommend someone who is clinging on you during the whole party. Dear Ladies, Don’t EVEN speak or talk for you man when he is asked questions directly AT him. You may talk about him in your circle, but not when he’s around. Don’t BRAG.

3.     Giving is Caring: So you’re shopping for your family, get something for your love(or potential.) doesn’t have to be something big, but enough to show that you care.

4.     If there is someone who is interested in YOU, accept their offer when they ask you on a date.

Overall, update your status and plans every once in a while this holiday season. Go out and get the person you want in places where a good environment is set in, and boost your ego over the holidays.  Think about the friends where it may lead to something, and let the bonding begin. Online daters, just continue with the statuses, and those who are more old fashion, just venture out in the mingle area.

Tips during the holiday season for singles.

It’s finally the holiday season, and most of you already have plans on what to do. Couples, you may do what you’re used to doing. But single people, don’t fret. We all know that this season is the one time where we can feel a bit on the downside of not having that chance to spend it with a loved one. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be happy. There are ways to overcome this situation.

1. The Gift of Giving: The every holiday season, I always give something to others. Giving is an act of kindness even when others do not necessarily deserve it. When you’re giving to others, you’re blessing others with things that they don’t have or possibly uplifting their spirit. You never know what others are going through in their lives, but other people will recognize the heart you have. Volunteer during the holidays. Volunteer at a nursing home, church, or anywhere that people may not have it best. One of the best feelings you could possibly imagine is making yourself feel good while you make others feel good. Brighten their lives this holiday season. Giving is also a way to share the love.

2.   Mingle: Don’t feel down when you see others having a happy time together. Instead, go out and mingle. Mingle to have fun with others around you. Mingle with other singles, your friends(without their partners), and perhaps maybe you just might meet somebody new. If you do have single friends, host a party and invite them over. Friendship is always important, especially around the holidays. It’s not always about spreading love, but you’re spreading joy amongst your circle of friends. You’re also spreading peace within your circle.

3.  Connect with family: Nothing comes close than being around family during the holidays. Family is always your first love, and their value is important. Connect with family and embrace the fact that those are the only folks who will support and help you through your journey in life. Also, re-establish connections with family who you haven’t seen or talk to.

4.  Focus on You: This is about making YOU happy. You are to do what you love, what you desire, and what you would like to accomplish on your happiness. Exercise and it will help your endorphins. Get rid of anything that is polluting your mind with negativity. Think more on the positive side of what you’re blessed with and perhaps take a vacation for yourself(of friends) and replenish your mindset. Just because you are single doesn’t mean you should always live in depression or loneliness, it’s unhealthy. The reason why is because you are begin to dwell on it more while it builds up.

Being single during the holidays can be hard for some people, and that’s some of many ways on helping yourself being happy and joyful during a joyful season. Yes Holidays are important to be with loved ones, but loved ones aren’t limited to couples. It’s about family and friendship. It’s not about love, but spreading the love. How will you spread the love? Now, there ways you can find love over the holidays if you choose….I will write a separate blog, but this is for you. This is about making yourself happy. Take care of yourself, and do well. Keep giving and spreading the peace, love, and joy.


@RonaldAtkinson

Cheating

Cheaters happens to be one of my favorite reality prime shows. However, even though I watch it….It still sickens me to the fact that we live in a world where relationships not only lost its trust. But some people have lost their loyalty. The moment you are with your first love( IN MARRIAGE) you have committed yourself to be spending the rest of your life with the most beautiful person God created for you. The moment you place that ring on his/her finger should value the fact of Death Do Us part. Love is a beautiful thing, and we shouldn’t waste a beautiful thing. Some people get married just for the title of it, yet still doesn’t understand commitment. People often cheat for the wrong reason. “Oh she ain’t what she used to be. Oh he doesn’t give the attention I need at night”…SO WHAT!!!! Marriage is sacred. You grow old together in love and matrimony. Cheating is very deceitful and disrespectful. I often ask to folks “Why cheat? What’s the purpose?”. Some folks always say “Oh it wasn’t like I was having sex. It was just this and that”…. Cheating is cheating no matter what. If you’re even thinking about another person or flirting in different ways, it’s still considered cheating.  They say you can hide it but the truth will eventually come out. Sometimes people will take it to their grave. Other times some people will eventually realize what they did is wrong and eventually will come clean to the other person. Some people will give that person a second chance. Second chances are always good. It will test our knowledge and faith to see if everything is everything. But earning the loyalty and trust back will take longer than usual.  So my philosophy….don’t cheat. Whether it’s emotional cheating or physical cheating, nobody deserves to be cheated on. So ask yourself if you’re unhappy…. What are some ways you can grow a deeper connection with your loved one? How can you keep the momentum going throughout your relationship? What can you do to add, change, or take away in the relationship that will better into something new? Start thinking of ways you grow deeply each day. Everyday is something new that you can fall in love with. Also, know the difference between a phase and a relationship. Remember, if you have done something you regret, don’t let the guilt take over your mind. Let it out. And for some of you who have been through the painful process of cheating, learn to forgive and set yourself free.

@RonaldAtkinson9  

Surely, Goodness, and Mercy. :A new interpretation of Psalm 23.

So today I learned something new at church this morning. When we read the lines in verse 6 of 23rd Psalm "surely goodness and mercy [love] will follow", we can somewhat misinterpret that meaning. We may think that we are "SURE" that goodness and love will follow, but sometimes when we apply "Faith" daily, there are times we can get discourage and lose our faith. Whatever Trials or Tribulations you're going through, we worry. "WORRYING" is another way of saying "I don't trust God"....Now think about it. God has his mysterious way of working things. When we DO trust him, we are believing. We are SURE that things will work out because that is His WORD and FINAL WORD. Now back to the verse.... Think about goodness and mercy. Without goodness and mercy, SURELY has to come along to keep goodness, and love going. SURELY has to keep your Faith going. SURELY isn't just a word in that verse that says only love and goodness will continue to follow us, but it's an ACT Bound to stick with us. So Remember it like this.... Surely, Goodness, and Mercy Will follow. Stick to His word, Trust Him even in the hard times, and know that SURELY will continue to uplift you WITH Goodness and His Love. Even though it's a short blog, I still believe that it's powerful enough to understand and realign our Faith.

Is enough, enough?

Love will bring all types of emotions whether you’re in a relationship or not. Feelings will always come and go. Forever they will be drilled in us until the day we die. So here’s my relationship philosophy quote for the night…. “There will be times where you will fall in love with someone, and the more you're falling, the more it may hurt you in the end.”  Is this perhaps true? How much have you fell in love with someone that they kept hurting you? By hurting you, I mean not giving you the attention or affection.  The more you keep putting your 110% in making things work out and sometimes nothing ever gets returned.  So now the question is…”When is it time to move on?”. Do you listen to the voice of Faith and continue? Or are you sick and tired of trying? How deeply do you love that person? Is this person just a phase? How do you know if this someone is the one knowing you may have more relationships down the road? Have you ever actually been IN the relationship and still not getting the things you desire in return? How deeply did you have feelings for this person even though 2 years later, a new person in your life shows up? All of these questions kind of remains undetermined. So when is it time for you to move forward? Who can replace the old when you know the old was far more rewarding? Do you give up? Sometimes it takes a long time to truly get over someone. Sometimes you may have feelings for someone, and others will tear you down saying “No, it will never happen. Let him/her go.” Sometimes you can pray for a relationship, and God may say “wait”. But we may think the answer is a no, yet we can still piece together hints and clues leading up to the right time. Think of it like this, there’s a wall that stands two feet high. On the other side, your partner, crush, or someone. Sometimes it may feel that the more we climb up the wall to get over it, the bigger the wall gets. So again, is enough, enough? Do we give up or keep going. Sometimes there will be a crack in the wall, and as a hole gets larger, we can reach for that person. We’re so close that we think we may have them, but once again, you fall back and lose that person…..Just when you think you’re close, there’s always a setback . Sooooo….Do we continue to reach when the wall keeps building before our goal? Hmmm….Still remains a mystery. I don’t have any advice on this, nor is there right answers.  But these questions are up to you. You decide!!

@RonaldAtkinson9