I often tell my readers, listeners, friends, and followers,
to begin making investments when finding a partner. There are two ways to make investments, and
that’s mentally and socially.
Mentally: The Art
of Investing in others begins in the mind. Before you engage yourself to
someone, you begin to think. When you’re thinking, you’re not finding if
they’re dateable, but if they have the potential to be the person you have been
looking for. In other terms, personality and looks. With that in mind, you’re not
fully being in that person’s presence, but you are still at a place in which
you can notice them from a distance. Such as, you see that person every single
day at the coffee shop, or you begin to pick up personality traits in what
he/she does. Either way, your mental thoughts are often up to your judgment.
You make the call. Now don’t put things to the test yet. Don’t call it quits.
You’re still wondering about that person. You are still trying to want to know
more about this person.
How unique are they?
What is it about that
person that makes them do such and such?
Perhaps something you see will spark an interest.
Now it’s time to put things up to the test.
Socially Investing:
This is where all of your mental notes come in affect. You don’t want to spill
the beans just yet, but you also want to come into a conclusion with your
thoughts. This is where you want to talk to that person. This is the time where
you engage in a conversation, “The Getting to know you phase”. You now have a
choice to find the answers that you always wanted to know more about, from this
person. Don’t pressure yourself. You’re not trying to start a romantic date
yet, but you are still wanting to get to know that person beyond what the eyes
can see. This is where you use your eyes, ears, mouth, nose, and touch. Be
around that person not just to talk, but to see how he acts in the real world.
Investing in others is all about using your best judgment in
order to find your match. Match in a relationship? Not always, but perhaps a match
of similar personalities. What is it that the other person has, that might be
something you’ve always wanted? You never know.
If that person plays hard to get, you have to
ask yourself “If I really want this person, how will I step my game up?”
What’s the
price you have to pay in the future?
