Often times we catch ourselves having feelings for someone.
In a lot of cases, it’s normal…It will happen to us regardless, but we have to
be super careful about what we truly want, what is reality showing to us, and
who we open our hearts to. Like I said before, this is mainly a “phase” if your
feelings are short-term. We as humans must understand three things to look at
when we “fall in love”- Character, Truth, and Lust.
Character:
Anytime you meet someone new for the first time, their character is being shown
off to you in ways of how they act, and how they conduct themselves as a
person. What is it that you see in a person? What traits do they associate
themselves with? How do they not only treat themselves, but how often to they
treat and respect others? You have to ask yourself simple questions like that.
Their character may match up to your potential likeliness of what you see in a
person. Recognize not just their outer character but their inner character. Do
they have a heart for others? Are they two faced? Many times we often judge
others of what we see versus simply talking and sharing our true character.
Sometimes when getting to know their character, it may take a journey to the
past.
Truth: Character
ties into truth by a couple things
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Being truthful to you
·
Being truthful to themselves
Sometimes when we get into relationships that person isn’t
always who they say they are. Why? Because in the beginning stages, we hear,
act, see, and speak the things that the other person wants to hear or vice
versa. We build so much momentum that sometimes it wares off and we are simply
left thinking “you’re not the person who I thought you were”. Look at how
truthful are they to themselves… When they speak something, do they really mean
it? In this stage, we must not only listen and speak, but we must analyze if
that person is showing the actions. When you speak, understand that your word
IS your word. A promise is a promise that can’t be broken.
Lust: This is
perhaps one of the most controversial subjects to speak on, so I will try to be
brief before my next Blog series…. We all get carried away when we see others
who look sophisticated. We either talk to that person to hook-up, or we slowly
get intrigued with our sexual desires. Either or we get attached to someone
because we see the physical beauty of them. Some people actually think that the
moment you have sex with someone, they’re automatically “The ONE”. Hate to
break it to you, but truthfully they’re only the one in your fantasy dreams.
Because a person looks good can also mean that they are hiding their-CHARACTER, which in fact isn’t
portraying THE TRUTH.
Be careful in who you find yourself attracted to in the very
beginning stages of the relationship. You have to do some analyzing and talking
with yourself and that person to see if they’re living the traits you would see
for a great relationship.
In order to find our if someone is your truest companion or
“potential”, take out a sheet of paper, write down your traits of what you see
in someone (anybody), then whoever you’re attracted to, write down their traits
and qualifications of that person. Long sentence short-if it matches, it’s
great… But don’t forget to analyze and not just listen.
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