Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Late night thoughts and early morning text messaging.

Let’s talk about the time in which you are laying in bed in the wee hours of the night and morning analyzing and thinking about your crush…. Let’s begin with a few questions in order to relate. Keep in mind, “The One” = Your crush, girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, ex, husband, wife, etcetera.

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking about "The One" you don't even talk to, but you wake up and find an unexpected text from them?

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking about "The One", so you decide to send them a random message just so you can brighten up his/her day?

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking about "The One", yet you wanted to text them but didn't because you was scared it was the wrong time? (In other words, they’d think you’re crazy to wake them up, or at least have them think it was a booty call when it’s really not)

·      Have you ever laid down in bed and thought of scenarios in your head of what your life might be like if you was in a relationship with "The one"?

·      Have you ever went to bed crying over "The one" who broke your heart after a one, two, three year, or more relationship and thought "what have I done wrong"?

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking to yourself "I went out with the wrong person" but is afraid to admit that truth to your partner?

·      Have you ever laid in bed wondering if "The One" is secretly cheating on you?

·      Have you ever laid in bed constantly thinking about "The One", fell asleep, and thought he/she texted or called you but realized it was just a dream?

·      Have you ever laid in bed, or at least in your physical state of motion listen to music, and certain songs took you back to the memories of you with "The one"?

·      Have you ever laid in bed thinking about "The one" and they appeared in your dream?

·      Have you ever wanted to text "The one" knowing you get the same result of a "No Text Back"?

·      Have you ever been sexually frustrated due to a lack of intimacy, or that it’s not potentially with “The One”?

·      Have you ever thought about “The One” (In this case your ex) knowing you still have feelings for them but wondered what he/she is up to and doing?

·      Have you ever been so mentally stressed by bottling up your feelings and emotions to “The One” knowing you’re afraid to jeopardize the friendship, make it awkward, or at least afraid of rejection?

·      Have you ever been so mentally stressed by bottling up your feelings and emotions to “The One” that you quickly sent a risky text message letting out your feelings and waited all day for a response?

·      Have you also been afraid to admit to “The One” that all you wanted was sex from them? In other words, are you not being straight forward?

We all deal with these thoughts, emotions, and feelings in some point in our lifetime, especially during the night. Nighttime is the only time during the entire 24/7 period in which we face a time of stress, thinking, and anxiety amongst anything that comes to the mind. Now in relation to some of the questions above, how does this relate to Life, Love, and Success? Well let’s begin with Love….

A Risky Message, A Lack of Intimacy, or Bottled Emotions
Many females out there don’t always enjoy the fact that a man is texting or messaging them around midnight time of the day. Some females may like that if you’re being appropriate, but if you are sexually frustrated, how would you solve that problem? Don’t call her up for sex on the spot…. Not worth it of doing so.

“But Ronald, what about my feelings and emotions? I think about her every night”- With that said, often times we may send our feelings to someone through a text message. Rule number one: DON’T EXPRESS THROUGH TEXT!! Men, if we’re expressing our love and feelings for someone over a text, the female may 1.) Think it’s awkward and she will not always respond in a good way, and 2.) May see that you’re not man enough to do it in person. If you call her, it shows a good sign that she’s listening to your voice, but the reactions over the phone may vary.  

If you’re ever in the rocky boat of bottling up your feelings and emotions for someone, let them know in person so that you can free yourself and be lifted off your shoulders. For those who are receiving the word of feelings from others, don’t feel obligated or pressured in what they say, but just listen and think.

Texting at Two O’Clock
Here’s what women do enjoy (especially the young ladies), they love the fact that you’re thinking about them. They love the fact that you do care enough to send them a text message to brighten their day in a surprise fashion. What they love to see is the ambition you’re sending. One of the messages most females would love is something short and sweet. One, be appropriate in what you have to say. Two, be brief about your message, and Three, apologize about waking them up or say “I know you’re sleep BUT…”

Helping Hand at The Midnight Hour
Most accidents or a cry for help also occurs during this time. Ladies, don’t ever be afraid to call that guy you was talking to, your crush, or whoever and ask for some help. Us Men will LOVE to help you in your situation. We want to see you improve to do better verses suffering. Maybe you’re stressed and need support, or you just need to let out the emotions. Whatever you do, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Anxieties that causes dreams
For those who aren’t married or engaged, we can sometimes have that anxiety on our mindset. We think about our crush for many reasons. We go through a series of emotions and thoughts that leaves us tossing and turning throughout the night. We then focus on so much about them that we often find ourselves dreaming about that person we are with. Have you ever thought something was truly real, and you didn’t realize it was only a dream until the moment you wake up? Yep, it all happens. Then we’re left wanting to grow closer with that person by sending a text. Here’s a thing, don’t let it bother you or give you an anxiety attack on that person. Sometimes it is best that we share what is going on in our minds and hearts. There are a few sayings and myths that people said over centuries such as, “If you’re dreaming about that person, you’re attracted to them in some way”, or “If you dream of a person, there’s a much greater chance that he/she has had a dream about you.” Whatever the case may be, you’re not alone. How do we take our mind off of these things that causes anxieties? My best bet would be to slowly relieve them from your mind and don’t worry too much about them. Take the time to really understand that you care for that person, so become a growing character in their life. When you become a growing character in their life, you might just play a positive impact on them that perhaps maybe “The One” will accept you as a person of the next person of interest.

Love Always,

@RonaldAtkinson9




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