Alone and Loneliness Part Two: Loneliness

Loneliness is a mere feeling in which we can always overcome. This is where we feel the isolation take over our mind and actions everyday. A lot of times, this feeling will slowly come into affect that can play with our minds. Often times you’re left with the many memories with another person that can often leave you wishing to retrieve those times back. You miss the touch, the kiss, you stare at your phone and sometimes read those past text messages only wishing they would somehow in someway hit you back up. Loneliness puts you in a state in which you’re craving that feeling of being wanted. Most people who tend to go through this state of “loneliness” often feel that they have to be nurtured. I have found many people who actually have this problem on serious terms. Is it curable? Perhaps if it’s really a disorder you are facing. Often times you are too clutched on to that person who you WERE with, and who you’re with NOW. With loneliness, you’re mind is telling you to settle for less (That’s if you are super desperate). So what exactly are you looking for? Is it someone to fill your time and space, someone to care for you, or is it the memories that you don’t get anymore because it’s the past? Loneliness is a negative state of mind yet it always seems to happen after a break-up, divorce, and separation. Other times, it happens when others around you have show and have something that you don’t have, so you feel peer pressured. 

Before you can begin another relationship, you must find ways to rely on yourself, and make YOU happy. Don’t always dwell and depend on other people because in the end, other people will hurt you. Pain builds up within you bringing you down. See once you’re alone reflecting on yourself, that’s the time to enjoy life. That’s when you’re happy with yourself and being alone. On the other hand, being lonely is the complete opposite. Because you’re “alone” doesn’t always mean you’re lonely, and because you’re lonely doesn’t always mean to be sad. Who knows, naturally speaking, you might just find the right one. In other words, people will see that you rely on yourself more than anything. it’s a chance a person will see and could be an equal to you in common.  Everything lies within you. You have the opportunity to change and fix yourself, and your feelings. Whether you want to be happy or sad, it’s all up to you. Don’t dwell on others to fully make you happy. If that’s the case, that’s how people get very attached, and eventually hurt. Define who you are at all times with your mind, body, and spirit. Only you have the power to change it. People often say that the best way to cure loneliness is to be alone. It will teach you patience, devotion, and self-determination.

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