Leah and Jeff: A Moral story example of Home girls and Men.

It was six months in the relationship. A couple actually started their relationship pretty strong. A female goes by the name of Leah who was a Business major in college alongside with her boyfriend Jeff who is studying chemical engineering.  Before I go on, let me tell you how these two have met. On a Saturday night in August, Jeff and his friends decided to go out to “The Ville” to enjoy hanging out before classes resume two weeks later. They all decided to go eat at Buffalo Bill’s Wild Western Chicken Wing Shack to pre-game before pub-crawling. Later on after they had finished eating, their first stop was at Jimmy Rebel’s. Jimmy Rebel’s is a local bar in which they specialize in not only drinks, but dancing, pool, karaoke, and many contests. That night, it was a model/dance contest to see which lady will be selected to win tickets for a pop concert up north in the city. Well long story short, Jeff and his friends spotted one of the ladies who was apart of that contest. “Jeff, you should go talk to her man” said on his friends. All of his friends encouraged him to talk to her, so that he actually did. Jeff actually for the first time introduces himself to Leah. She gave him her number, and three weeks later after they got to know each other, the rest is history. Now flash forward six months later. Leah is known to be that popular girl within her department, school, sorority, and of course “The Ville”. Jeff is also very smart and talented as well. Each of them has their own friends. Leah has her home girls, and Jeff has his homeboys. From time to time they would all go out a lot. Now let’s look at their friends. Leah’s friends were three of a kind. They always have looked out for each other since day one. Each of them talk to each other about anything they were please to share; secrets, stories, EVERYTHING. Everyone knows Leah, so everywhere she went there was always someone who at least said hi. Leah knew the security guards, bar tenders, waitresses, waiters, and many more people within “The Ville”. Jeff’s friends were cool. His friends watched each other’s backs as well. However, there was one who was secretly in love with Leah. Okay let me mention this, Jeff’s homeboys are all single, but they also think Leah is cute. Leah’s friends had boyfriends.  So anyway, long story short to cut to the chase, one night Leah didn’t want to go out. But Jeff did alongside with his one friend. They talked, drink, talked, and finally it went down. Little did Jeff know, the waitress who served him was Leah’s best friend. Jeff was flirting with the waitress…Keep in mind, he didn’t say he was single, but the way he was talking to her set her off. The waitress (Leah’s friend) quickly went talking to the other waitresses about the situation. Late that night, Jeff came home in which Leah already knew about the whole situation. Eventually they broke up and called off the relationship…. Now flash forward one month later. Jeff found out that Leah is currently dating a friend of his. The same exact friend who told her to talk to her, and the same exact friend who was with him the night they broke up. “I thought we were friends” Jeff said …..

I’m not going into any more detail with this story, but the moral of the story is that when you’re in a relationship, YOU HAVE TO WATCH YOUR EVERY MOVE. Everywhere you go there will always be someone watching you. The Home girls will literally go off and tell each other everything.  Men, there are two groups who are watching your every move, The "Home girls" and “The Men”. The home girls are the "look out" friends of the female. They watch her back, protect her, and makes sure she doesn't get hurt by the guy that she is currently with. The men however are secretly waiting for you to mess up in hopes to retain the treasure that is now your lost. So when you see that cute girl up in the bars, or her friends, make sure to not over step your limits. Be truthful in what  you do, and be smart of your actions. You just never know when who is watching you, You never know who could be passing information, secretly recording you, or perhaps a Set-up to break your relationship.

@RonaldAtkinson9 

Hold Your Peace, and Let The Lord Fight Your Battles

There’s a quote that I’ve been hearing throughout my life and goes “Hold your peace, and let The Lord fight your battles”. Every waking day in life, we will come across people who either think they’re better than others, people who can’t stand to see you succeed, or people who just like to put others down. As we move out into the real world, those people are never going to leave you. The real reality is, we have to watch what we say to others or how we come across someone because you never know what that other person is going through in life, or what their mindset is. It’s very simple nowadays how easy we can offend someone until either A.) They throw the first punch and begin to get defensive, or B.) They’ll have something up their sleeve with an army of people ready to attack you when you least expect it. A lot of people think it’s joke so what they try to do is test your ability of stance. They will say things and laugh, but they don’t know what’s on your mind because the minute something was said, it already set you off. Will I put up a fight? Yes I would, and everyone will always mistake kindness as the weakness.  That’s what you have to be aware about, just because someone is appeared to be the nicest person around doesn’t always mean they are weak, timid, foolish, or easily manipulated. They are stronger than you think. So now what? Look at everyone who’s brought negativity in your life, or at least try to put you down to make themselves look and feel good….What would Jesus do?

Here’s where holding your peace comes in affect.

I’ve been through a lot, and when I have to deal with negative people in my life, or at least come in contact with someone who plays no special role in what they’re trying to contribute, I will have to bite my tongue. Keep in mind that there will always be

            Backstabbers,

            Cheaters,

            Liars behind your back,

            Envious people who can’t stand to see you go the right direction, and of course my favorite type of people, those who try to tear you down and aren’t satisfied no matter how hard you try to accomplish a mission of theirs.

 There will also be times people will try disrespect you out of bitterness and all you want to do rip that person apart. Think about it, your hair sticks up and you begin to get goosebumps, you then start to feel your heart racing with blood beginning to boil. You look at them with that angry look as if your mom or grandmother was upset for talking back she will hit you with a cast iron skillet so hard you wouldn’t wake up for months.

As a man, I have to hold my peace and not let it get to me because it’s a childish act to fight someone that’s not even worth my time.  Someone came up to me the other day and had the nerve to say some words. All I did was blinked twice, smiled, said okay, and moved on with my business (A nice version of giving shade). Did it get to me? A little bit, but I didn’t let it bother me or at least ruin my day. It’s just like when a professor, boss, or someone of a higher authority is trying to rip you apart in his office, I just sit back with my arms folded, smile, and say “Thank you for the words, are you done?”. If you hit someone with a smile and “Are you done?” it really amazes me how upset they get. I respect that they’re upset and the situation that’s going on, but it’s really amazing how calm I am. If I were to handle some business that needs to be addressed, said, and done, then we’ll talk face to face like business partners and politicians. But if you feel the need to act childish by raising your voice and getting a fit, I’m sorry you’re not solving anything that needs to get accomplished. It doesn’t just go for bosses, but that goes for anyone. You can always voice your opinion and get defensive without raising your voice or trying to initiate a fight…Let them see how childish they are acting…They won’t win the fight.

Liars: Liars are people who will get their awakening when the light will come when least expected. Liars, Cheaters, and Backstabbers will always appear to get away with something, but somewhere it will back fire when you leave it alone and let the good Lord handle it mysteriously. So what do you actually do? You actually need to watch them, hold them accountable, but don’t allow them in your life if you know they’re bad trouble. Pray for them for they know not what to do.

Envious people, what are you jealous of? Have you walked in my shoes? Live your life and not focus on competition. Here’s a thing, what you do is what you do so you have to live to what YOU want to accomplish.

No matter how much someone tries to bring you down or at least clutters your day, space, and life with negativity,  keep in mind that you’re a child of God. God is always on your side, so hold your peace because there is reward coming your way. Be happy at living life and see how things will work out. Hold your peace, and let The Lord fight your battles.

Love your enemies, but above all, pray for those who persecute you in every way.

No matter how much you try to bring me down, all I can say is I'm a child of the most High, and there's absolutely NO WAY you can win the battle in all aspects of any situation. Like I said before, you can try all you want to, but I'll just laugh and know it will not make any difference because God is always on my side. 

@RonaldAtkinson9

Why Parents Don't Approve of Dating

Young Folks,

Have you often felt why you don’t get the freedom you want when it comes to dating? Here’s why the parents don’t always approve of who you choose to be in your life.

Number One: You’re still growing up to become someone you are not yet. You haven’t fully adapt to the necessary steps in life on how to be an adult when you’re still at your teenage years. With that said, I can see if you go out and have a boyfriend and girlfriend at the time, but it’s key to understand that you’re also going to school for an education. These are the years in life where you determine what you want to do in the real world, and who you want to be. Nowadays I start to see everyone taking their relationship super fast thinking this person is the one and only when to be honest, you haven’t turned 21 yet. Keep in mind to not take things too fast with your relationship. Be careful in who you choose.

Number Two: Has it ever occur to you that the moment you’re in a relationship, that person who you are with will change your mentality? Many times, parents see you as the person you are when they have raised you. A parent can tell you right off the back who is good and who’s not good. Don’t try to shrug them off because they’ve been in our footsteps and know exactly who is the right person for us. The real reason is because you don’t want to end up with someone who will influence you to do the opposite of your morals, family, and personal things. “You have changed so much, and it’s because of that person you’re with” are words that every teen hates to hear from a parent, but you really don’t know unless you take a step back to realize the situations and changes you have made. Keep in mind that even when you grow up, your parents are still a part of you. If you know you could be getting into some trouble that they don’t approve of, you already know it may turn out to be the wrong relationship, and the wrong person to associate yourself with.

Find someone so that you both can stay on top of your school work, job, and still interact for a social life. If you think parents aren’t approving well to your partner, speak up and prove them wrong.  Parents, be sure to interact with that partner your child is with. Get to know him, her, their background, living environment, and anyway so that you can also be aware of protecting your child. Even when you have told them many times to not do anything, step back and let your child learn the hard way so they too can realize it. Parents, always protect your children in the best way they can. Don’t let them get in harms way of anything, oh and be alert on them because they may just go behind your back to be sneaky.

"Protect your children at all times and cost"

@RonaldAtkinson9

Late night thoughts and early morning text messaging.

Let’s talk about the time in which you are laying in bed in the wee hours of the night and morning analyzing and thinking about your crush…. Let’s begin with a few questions in order to relate. Keep in mind, “The One” = Your crush, girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, ex, husband, wife, etcetera.

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking about "The One" you don't even talk to, but you wake up and find an unexpected text from them?

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking about "The One", so you decide to send them a random message just so you can brighten up his/her day?

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking about "The One", yet you wanted to text them but didn't because you was scared it was the wrong time? (In other words, they’d think you’re crazy to wake them up, or at least have them think it was a booty call when it’s really not)

·      Have you ever laid down in bed and thought of scenarios in your head of what your life might be like if you was in a relationship with "The one"?

·      Have you ever went to bed crying over "The one" who broke your heart after a one, two, three year, or more relationship and thought "what have I done wrong"?

·      Have you ever went to bed thinking to yourself "I went out with the wrong person" but is afraid to admit that truth to your partner?

·      Have you ever laid in bed wondering if "The One" is secretly cheating on you?

·      Have you ever laid in bed constantly thinking about "The One", fell asleep, and thought he/she texted or called you but realized it was just a dream?

·      Have you ever laid in bed, or at least in your physical state of motion listen to music, and certain songs took you back to the memories of you with "The one"?

·      Have you ever laid in bed thinking about "The one" and they appeared in your dream?

·      Have you ever wanted to text "The one" knowing you get the same result of a "No Text Back"?

·      Have you ever been sexually frustrated due to a lack of intimacy, or that it’s not potentially with “The One”?

·      Have you ever thought about “The One” (In this case your ex) knowing you still have feelings for them but wondered what he/she is up to and doing?

·      Have you ever been so mentally stressed by bottling up your feelings and emotions to “The One” knowing you’re afraid to jeopardize the friendship, make it awkward, or at least afraid of rejection?

·      Have you ever been so mentally stressed by bottling up your feelings and emotions to “The One” that you quickly sent a risky text message letting out your feelings and waited all day for a response?

·      Have you also been afraid to admit to “The One” that all you wanted was sex from them? In other words, are you not being straight forward?

We all deal with these thoughts, emotions, and feelings in some point in our lifetime, especially during the night. Nighttime is the only time during the entire 24/7 period in which we face a time of stress, thinking, and anxiety amongst anything that comes to the mind. Now in relation to some of the questions above, how does this relate to Life, Love, and Success? Well let’s begin with Love….

A Risky Message, A Lack of Intimacy, or Bottled Emotions

Many females out there don’t always enjoy the fact that a man is texting or messaging them around midnight time of the day. Some females may like that if you’re being appropriate, but if you are sexually frustrated, how would you solve that problem? Don’t call her up for sex on the spot…. Not worth it of doing so.

“But Ronald, what about my feelings and emotions? I think about her every night”- With that said, often times we may send our feelings to someone through a text message. Rule number one: DON’T EXPRESS THROUGH TEXT!! Men, if we’re expressing our love and feelings for someone over a text, the female may 1.) Think it’s awkward and she will not always respond in a good way, and 2.) May see that you’re not man enough to do it in person. If you call her, it shows a good sign that she’s listening to your voice, but the reactions over the phone may vary.  

If you’re ever in the rocky boat of bottling up your feelings and emotions for someone, let them know in person so that you can free yourself and be lifted off your shoulders. For those who are receiving the word of feelings from others, don’t feel obligated or pressured in what they say, but just listen and think.

Texting at Two O’Clock

Here’s what women do enjoy (especially the young ladies), they love the fact that you’re thinking about them. They love the fact that you do care enough to send them a text message to brighten their day in a surprise fashion. What they love to see is the ambition you’re sending. One of the messages most females would love is something short and sweet. One, be appropriate in what you have to say. Two, be brief about your message, and Three, apologize about waking them up or say “I know you’re sleep BUT…”

Helping Hand at The Midnight Hour

Most accidents or a cry for help also occurs during this time. Ladies, don’t ever be afraid to call that guy you was talking to, your crush, or whoever and ask for some help. Us Men will LOVE to help you in your situation. We want to see you improve to do better verses suffering. Maybe you’re stressed and need support, or you just need to let out the emotions. Whatever you do, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Anxieties that causes dreams

For those who aren’t married or engaged, we can sometimes have that anxiety on our mindset. We think about our crush for many reasons. We go through a series of emotions and thoughts that leaves us tossing and turning throughout the night. We then focus on so much about them that we often find ourselves dreaming about that person we are with. Have you ever thought something was truly real, and you didn’t realize it was only a dream until the moment you wake up? Yep, it all happens. Then we’re left wanting to grow closer with that person by sending a text. Here’s a thing, don’t let it bother you or give you an anxiety attack on that person. Sometimes it is best that we share what is going on in our minds and hearts. There are a few sayings and myths that people said over centuries such as, “If you’re dreaming about that person, you’re attracted to them in some way”, or “If you dream of a person, there’s a much greater chance that he/she has had a dream about you.” Whatever the case may be, you’re not alone. How do we take our mind off of these things that causes anxieties? My best bet would be to slowly relieve them from your mind and don’t worry too much about them. Take the time to really understand that you care for that person, so become a growing character in their life. When you become a growing character in their life, you might just play a positive impact on them that perhaps maybe “The One” will accept you as a person of the next person of interest.

Love Always,

@RonaldAtkinson9