Lasting Forever.

Young couples, be careful of the word “Forever”. Yes couples, we ALL get attached to that person.  When we get emotionally attached to someone, we get physically attached to someone…. It’s Love, and things like that, is completely common. BUT just be careful about the mindset of thinking that person IS the one. For most couples it is like that, and if you found “The One”, congratulations I wish you a happy relationship. HOWEVER, always prepare for the worst. A break-up can happen in a blink of an eye, and it will cause a {female} to be in a world of hurt and depression. What us men need to realize is, she’s going to have that mindset that we’re her ONLY and SPECIAL ONE. She wants us, we wanted her, and we both [Men and Women] got our wish. Because once we mess up, her next man in life will BE the better man, and yes she will make it seem like we are the bad guy of her past. Don’t ever fall out of love, and don’t ever crush a woman’s dreams. Ladies, the reason why I say be careful is so that you will not be hurt. I know all couples don’t last, but the only time you should think about being with the one forever is the moment you place the two rings on each other’s fingers. At an early age, we have our whole future and lives to focus on, and like I always say, “the RIGHT one will come sooner or later”. Not every person is destined to be there forever, but it doesn’t hurt to STRIVE to be together forever. Work it out, take it slow, and it just might be the perfect one. Always prepare yourself for the worse in ALL aspects in a relationship. Just don't always count on it lasting forever. It isn’t forever unless it's marriage. 

Ronald Atkinson

Love Beyond Friendship: The foundation of a good relationship

So you have a crush on someone but afraid to be put in the Friend-zone. Or you’re afraid of jeopardizing the friendship. How do you know have found the right one? Well from a good way of answering that, take a sheet of paper and write the good things you want in a partner and write the things you don’t want in a partner.  That list will consist of your pros and cons in a person in which everyone has pros in cons for what he/she wants in a significant other. Too many of us find ourselves of either avoiding or getting into the beginning stages of “The Friend Zone”. Everyone hates the friend zone and it’s not always a fun place to be in, but if you really look at a good relationship, it generally starts out as being friends first and then eventually a relationship happens to grow. What we have twisted is being in a relationship first, and then becoming friends. I always say that a relationship isn’t always two lovers, but it’s also friends is involved. If you’re comfortable being around that person, and both of you have no shame of doing anything in front of each other, technically it’s perfect as it is. I applaud those friends who decide to “take a chance” at least to see where things go from here on out to the next level. Don’t always be afraid of letting that person know you have feelings for them, because you never know what the other person is thinking. And for those who think it’s awkward, just think and Take Chances because you never know how much value something may hold in the future. Think about how much that person has made an impact on you, and think to yourself what would he/she do in the long run. So here’s a question, would you rather keep the feelings to yourself and feel bottled up? Or live free once you set the pressure off?  Not everyone has the same feelings, expressions, and expectations, so of course it will be different towards others depending on how the two treats and sees one another. Later on I will have tips on how to avoid the Friend-Zone for both male and females, but this is just to show you what establishes a good relationship. Take care,and Take Chances. 

New students beginning college: For parents and students

New college students, be aware of all surroundings whether it’s the people, the environment, or your actions. Entering in college is one of the greatest opportunities to achieve in life. First things you have to accomplish is to get to know your peers.  When you get to know your peers, you are setting the foundation of yourself to a first impression. How does this apply to the daily life in the future? Well in the daily life, you will meet new people, and work with new people depending on the career you pursue. Now just because you’ve entered in the new world of “college” doesn’t necessarily mean that you are “grown and on your own”. Be sure to realize that your family still loves and supports you. Be sure to understand that the moment you leave home, you will appreciate your parents more than you possibly ever did. So every now and then, hit them up.  Parents, keep tabs on your children from time to time. At least one day out of the week to keep in touch whether it’s skyping, texting, or calling. Always wish them well, encourage your child’s journey throughout the day, school year, or anything that they got going for themselves. Support them in what they do, and always stand firm of the choices they make.  

Students, one way for good opportunities is to “GET INVOLVE”. Get involve by joining various activities, intermural sports, committees, governing associations, clubs, Greek, anything that you can be active in. By doing so, it builds character, leadership, and friendship. You are playing a vital role to make yourself known to others in which one day will land you a great job, and will be a great part of your resume.  Be sure to keep up with your finances and don’t over spend your budget. Be wise to when it comes down to the question “Do I really NEED this? Or do I actually WANT it? I recommend that you use your money for emergency uses only. If you have a job, be wise about saving and learn to scratch out the extra stuff you really don’t need.

Last but never the least, don’t do anything that’s going to hurt your career in life, and hurt your reputation in college. Remember the most important thing about going to college is about getting your education so you can walk away with a degree in your hand, and the degree hanging on your wall. Be in class EARLY and ON TIME in your seat ready for the teacher to start his/her lesson. Don’t over sleep and skip class. Make sure you do your homeworking and studying at a descent time so that you can set your alarm for a goodnight sleep. Get up and eat a well balance breakfast, and be sure that whatever lecture class you are in, RECORD the lecture by using a audio device. The more you go back to listen to a lecture, you could always learn something new. If you are sick, GO TO CLASS. One lecture can put you behind a whole lot, and a chance you could miss something very important, like assignments, announcements, quizzes, and much more, and of course, you are paying for the class.  Always stay on top of the books, and be well ahead in class. If you ever need help, don’t be hesitant to ask the teacher. If the teacher doesn’t have the time, find a tutor, or a friend that will help you. If any other options will get ahead, go by reading the material in other sources of books, online websites, and articles. Be sure to declare your major by the time your sophomore year comes around. Pick a major that isn’t about how much money a job cost, but how much passion you have for what you want to do for your career. Don’t just think about what you want to do right after college, look at the broad perspective. Because when one chapter closes, another one opens. Above all, you will come through some bumps and holes that may cause stress and anxiety, but don’t worry, it happens to everyone. All you need to do is stay focus, don’t ever give up and say you can’t accomplish anything because everyone accomplishes something at their own pace. College is fun, but like I said it has its bumps along the way. So everyday, PRAY and have faith for it will get you through. Have a successful school year, and enjoy college.

Life, Love, and Success

I’ve been told to get a blog so other people other than my Facebook friends can see, read, and understand how to better themselves within the daily struggles that we humans often go through. Especially the young folks of my generation that needs to understand. I’m not a Relationship counselor or a “Dr.”, but I do know what it takes to have common sense, and how to live by it. I often give advice to people when it comes to hardships, struggles, or if there is anyone who needs encouragement of lifting. How do I better myself in a relationship? What are the solutions to the problems I’m facing? How can I deal with a heartache? What steps does it take to build faith? Many of those questions I get asked all the time, and that’s what this is all about….For teenagers, young adults, and anyone who faces them. I do hope you will learn something from them, and will take the word of encouragement to apply it to everyday life. I’m not perfect, we’re all not perfect, but what binds us all to be perfect is to be there for one another, and hope that we will all live to have a better life, great love, and great success.

Lead the life you follow, Live it well to success, and Love all you can in every way.